Tolerance

In the UK there is a massive tolerance for gay people, however there are a few people who are intolerant and in some countries there are very low levels of tolerance.

When I was at college and I came out to my friends there was one friend in particular who wasn't very happy, he tried to be tolerant but couldn't help himself come out with homophobic comments and just generally acting weird around me. When I asked him what made him feel so uncomfortable towards gay people, he responded by saying it was the way he was brought up.

I really believe that it is the way he was brought up, his attitude towards gay people was just the same attitude he seen from his parents when he was growing up, however I have spoken to him recently and his attitude has changed, I was actually scared because to me he seemed to be a completely different person.

So what do you think causes intolerance and what are your experiences please let me know.

Please comment or email GYD@live.co.uk

Home

What an adventure, the pub that I work in is usually a 5 minute drive away from home for me but on Friday I left work and an hour later I was still nowhere near home because of the snow. I ended up giving up and going to see a relative who lives near to my work, so I stayed with them on Friday night and intended to go home on Saturday but when I got into the car the was no way I could get it to move, so I left the car there and walked down to my work after going shopping for clean clothes for work, after work I went back to my relatives and stayed there again. Today I was sitting in the house with a cup of coffee staring at my car trying to figure out the bast way to get it out of the snow, I went and defrosted it then climbed in and started trying to slowly move but it just kept getting stuck, I lost my temper and slammed my foot down on the accelerator, after a bit of a struggle my car managed to power its way through (Which I wouldn't recommend doing because it can really damage the clutch and also so easily spin out of control and be very dangerous, i'm just very bad)

I can't believe how good it is to be home sitting in clothes that aren't for work and to be using the computer (oh how I have missed this).

Only one problem, i'm working again tonight and I really will cry if I cant get home again......

while I am at work I will try to figure out my next topic to discuss as I really haven't given it much thought the last couple of days, if you have any idea's of what you would like me to speak about please email me at GYD@live.co.uk

Sorry

Due to the sudden snow fall I have been unable to get home so I'm sorry there have been no posts recently but without my computer all the Internet access I have is on my phone and it's not easy writing a post on this so I promise I will post again as soon as I am able to get home

Stereotypes

There are many stereotypes surrounding the gay community for example, we like to dance or the sort of music we listen to.

In a few cases there are gay people who do fit the stereotype but there are also gay people who don't fit the stereotype. Why is it that everyone seems to think that if you are gay then you have to be the stereotype? and what is it that makes so many gay people actually fit certain aspects of the stereotype?

First of all I don't actually believe that being gay makes you like these things, being gay only makes you like members of the same sex, everything else, your personality and so on is just you.

However you may be influenced by other homosexuals that you know such as friends and family or homosexuals in the media most of whom do fit the stereotype.


Please let me know your thoughts on this subject either by commenting or emailing me at GYD@live.co.uk or comment on facebook.

Social Networking

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Self Acceptance

In many cases the hardest part of coming out is admitting it to yourself, I went through a prolonged state of denial trying desperately to convince myself it was just a phase and that I wasn't gay. My self acceptance came from the weirdest place ever.

When I was going through denial I used to go and stay in a hotel in Inverness about an hours drive away from where I live, the reason I done this was basically just to escape my life for a day, I would go shopping or go to the cinema, go out for dinner and then just relax in my hotel room and completely forget everything that was worrying me I would just do what I wanted and be who I wanted to be.

One night in my hotel room I was sitting surfing youtube video's, I started watching video's of "Gay Interest" many of the people I watched I hsve now subscribed to but thst night one video in particular stood out for me.

This video was called "Cure for Homosexuality" and it was upleoaded by "Theophi1us", basically this video ask's if you could cure homosexuality, if you could make yourself heterosexual, would you?

When watching this video I suddenly realised that being gay has made me the person I am my personality would almost definately be different if I was heterosexual. I realised I like who I am so if I had a choice to change my sexuality, I wouldn't.

Here is the video I am talking about:


Unfortunately he doesn't make video's anymore but have a look on youtube there are many more good video's. Another one of my favourites is Robmuch look him up

As normal, if you would like to get in touch with me you can email me at GYD@live.co.uk

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About Me

I have noticed that when I started this blog I never introduced myself and I thought you might want to know a bit about the author of the blog, so here we go with some facts about me:

My name is Kyle
I am 21 years old
I work as a bar supervisor.
I really enjoy listening to loud music through the loudspeaker system when i'm in the pub alone, I think music has to be loud to really enjoy it.
My favourite music artist at the moment is Joe McElderry, I absolutely adore him haha
I come from a small town in the north east of Scotland
If i'm not working you can find me either driving my VW Golf or at home watching TV and surfing the internet.
I am ashamed to admit I am obsessed with vampire related TV and films like Twilight, The Vampire Diaries and I also own all the Buffy the vampire slayer and Angel DVD's.

If you want to know anymore just ask :D

If you want to get in touch with me you can email me at GYD@live.co.uk
Please also let me know if there is anything you would like to see mentioned on here aswell.

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Education

Children in school are very impressionable so should homosexuality be taught in schools. There are many people out there who are prejudiced towards homosexuals but why?

I think the reason is because they don't know anything about it, they don't understand it, and they fear what they don't know.

If people were taught about it in schools it would no longer be unknown so hopefully it would significantly reduce the amount of people homophobic people.

Please tell me your thoughts

either comment or email me at GYD@live.co.uk

Gay Men and Blood Donation

At the moment sexually active gay men are not allowed to give blood, the national blood service say this is due to the increased risk of HIV, however they also test ALL blood donations for HIV so why cant gay men give blood if it is going to be tested anyway.

This is due to the fact that there tests may not show the virus in the early stages but heterosexual's can also have the virus.

If you would like to know more about this subject then please visit the national blood service website.

Please comment or email me your views at GYD@live.co.uk

Gay Youth In America

I have noticed there are a few Americans reading this blog so I thought I would write a post about gay youth in the united states.

I am from the UK, people in this country are very open minded and accepting of gay people, however as a gay teenager I went through denial, depression and anxiety. In the USA unfortunately not so many people are as open minded so imagine going through the internal pain while also having to deal with physical & verbal harassment at the same time.

This is something that Justin Aaberg (Age 15), Raymond Chase (Age 19), Tyler Clementi (Age 18), Asher Brown (Age 13), Billy Lucas (Age 15) & Seth Walsh (Age 13) know to well.

Unfortunately all these boys committed suicide because of this bullying, this is something that has to be stopped, Dan Savage has started the "It gets better project" to tell young LGBT youth like these guys that if they can get through it life will get better it won't always be as bad as it is at the moment.

Unfortunately suicide is a massive cause of death in the united states and gay youth are far more likely to attempt suicide.

If you are feeling alone and need someone to talk to then there are helplines all over the world to help, for example the Trevor Project in the USA.

I believe getting through this will make you a stronger and more confident person.
Please don't let the bully's get to you, be who you are, not who they want you to be.

If you need Someone to Talk to call the Trevor Project on 866488 - 7386 or visit www.thetrevorproject.org

Also please remember if you would like to speak to me then email me on GYD@live.co.uk or you can also email if there is any specific topic you want mentioned on this blog or leave a comment on any post

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A Wasted Youth

There are many people who say a gay youth is a wasted youth, I hate to say it but I have to agree, while I was growing up most people my age were all hanging about with friends, I was sitting alone not speaking to anyone.

I spent my youth alone and miserable wishing I was normal, only recently did I realise there is nothing wrong with me.

Please let me know what you think, either by commenting or e-mail me at GYD@live.co.uk

Internet Troubles

My internet has been down all day so I have just come into my work on my day off to use the internet. While my internet has been down I have spent my day watching dvd's and going through files on my computer.

Prayers for Bobby which has to be the most upsetting film i have ever seen, for those of you who haven't seen it, it is a true story about a boy who's family wouldn't accept him for being gay, eventually he jumps off a bridge and kills himself then you see the story of the mother (Mary Griffith) coming to terms with it. It took his death for her to realise that there was nothing wrong with him and she eventually became a massive gay rights campaigner. I really recommend the the film to anyone it is really sad but its a good film.

When I went through files on my computer I found photo's of my first and only ever boyfriend, I thought all feelings for him were gone but when I seen the photo's all my feelings came back again.

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Prayers for Bobby